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Relationship Type: Thin Crust or Deep Dish?

I have been thinking a lot lately about the type of relationships I have and their impact on the growth of my business.  Maybe this will help you too.

Recently I got on a call within the John Maxwell Team (JMT).  Now for those of you that don’t know about the JMT, just understand that is amazing.  I will do a longer talk and post on it later.  But the day I got on the call, my mentor and friend, Paul Martinelli was teaching.  After he taught briefly he opened up the call to Q&A to answer questions from the people on the call.

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10 Signs That Your Relationships and Business are in Trouble

imagesRelationships are a crucial part of every business.  In fact, one study suggests that over 80% of a business persons day is spent dealing with people, especially executives and sales people.  It is one thing to be around people but a completely different thing to be in relationship with them.  Take a look at these 10 signs that your relationships and your business could be in trouble.

  1. You don’t love and accept yourself.  The fact is, the only relationship in your life that is continual and therefore important, is with yourself.  The first person you need to learn to get along with is YOU.
  2. You don’t put energy into being likable.  Some encouraging tips to be more likable include choosing to smile, ask people questions, and put others and their agenda before your own.  Zig Ziglar once said, “You can have everything you want in life if you just help enough other people get what they want.”  A likable person helps others.
  3. You can’t remember peoples names.  Simple enough.  But many people struggle with this.  One thing I have done to work on this is take a picture of the person and use an app like Phonto to add text to the photo simply adding their name.  Study the photos, memorize their names.    
  4. You don’t know what interests others inside the work environment or their outside hobbies.  Learn to put yourself in others shoes and learn their interests and you will build a deeper relationship with them.
  5. You don’t ask for help from others.  There isn’t a better way to connect with someone and build a relationship than asking them for help and or seeking out there opinion on how you might be able to do something better.  Don’t think you have all the answers, because you don’t, you just have your answers.
  6. You don’t add value to people.  We can only truly add value to people if we value people and are making ourselves more valuable.  What are you learning right now that you can share with someone else?  Hint: listening to others adds value to them too!
  7. You focus on what is wrong with others instead of focusing on what is right.  Find common ground, even if it is small slice of ground and build upon it.  Slowly, over time, if you focus on that common ground you share with others, it will increase, and the relationship will grow and become stronger.
  8. You love your opinion more than you love people.  You can’t win a great relationship if you are always winning arguments every time.  Give up some space to them from time to time and you will see the relationship grow.
  9. You don’t follow the Golden Rule.  Before you do something, in relationship with someone else, stop and ask yourself, “would I want this person to do this to me?”
  10. You don’t seek out resources to help you grow in relationship skills.  What books have you read and or classes have you taken to improve your relationship skills?  How committed are you to growing in relationship with others?

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Flying Kites and Limiting Beliefs

Do you share the same belief I did that kite flying is for summertime sunshine and warmth?  My son, Hunter, is a crazy cool enthusiastic kite kid.  He owns 4 or 5 kites of various sizes and loves to fly them.  He convinced me that we should go fly one of his new kites he got for Christmas on January 3rd, 2016 when it was windy and cold.  Not just cold, but January in Michigan below freezing kind of cold.  It was 31 degrees out and as you can see in the video, there is a light dusting of snow on the ground.  So that is exactly what we did and it was fun!

As we were setting up the kite for flight I started to think about what other limiting beliefs I had and how they were holding me back in other areas of life.

Start with big dreams and make life worth living!~Stephen Richards

What beliefs are holding you back?  Examine where you are in regards to your current results in Business, Health and Fitness, Relationships, and Financial Wealth.  These beliefs are your “truth” about how life is.  If one or all of these areas isn’t measuring up to how you thought life should be then the belief is holding you back.

Once you have determined you are holding on to a limiting belief you can go to work on changing it!

  1. Write down the new belief that is opposite the old “truth”
  2. Read it out loud twice a day
  3. Take action on that new belief
  4. Reflect on the results you are getting with the new belief
  5. Make changes until you are seeing the results you want from the new belief
  6. Celebrate your results with a giant WOOHOO!
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